At the end of the read, I am sure that at least some of you will understand implement my sayings and change their perspective towards success.
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What is success? When do you say you are successful? Have you been successful throughout your life? Well many of you might find it difficult to answer these questions. Along with these I also have one more question for you guys. Do you really have to be successful to be happy? If yes/ no, then what is happiness?
That’s too many questions to all of you. Now let’s analyze what true success and happiness are. Success according to me is victory or a temporary joy that a person experiences as a result of hard work, smart work, honesty and overcoming their previous mistakes. Happiness is a feeling, an internal realization which is most often considered as an emotion.
Now ,I have one more question for you. What do you do to be happy? Do you sought after happiness or experience happiness with what you have
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Let us keep this happiness talk aside for a while and talk about success. Success could be of various types- for students its academics which define success and for job holders it’s their career. Likewise for business holders it’s their financial status and for very few people it’s emotional stability which defines success. So if you are anyone among these you can think of yourself in the situation and tell for how long you were happy after being successful?
Sometimes your end result is something different from your expectations or you may end getting undesired result. This undesired end result has a very special name, you are right its failure. Failure is not accepted in the way success is accepted. Very often failure is considered to be negative and all that a human being wants is success. Parents, most of the times never teach their children to accept the failure. This often results in stress, anxiety and depression which nothing but provides more and more such failures. Failure is not the end of the life. Failure is a part of life with which we have to cope up and become strong. Failure makes sure that a person never commits the same mistake in life. Failure is a result of ignorance, negligence and over confidence. Failure is one of the best teachers which if accepted in the right way can teach immortal lessons. Now that I have defined what failure is, think how many times you have failed in your life. Did you accept your failure or did you mourn for not being successful? If you have accepted your failure, then what did you learn from them?
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Coming back to our happiness talk, I strongly agree with the point that one need not have to be always successful (applicable to only those who consider and value failures). Success is one of the factors which can cause happiness (temporary) or you can call it as pleasure. At this point of time I would like to narrate one of the incidents from my life. I was also in the bandwagon team of people who believed success was the only factor which could make a person happy and complete his / her identity. So this incident happened two years back. I got my pre university results and I had scored a decent percentage (Not boasting about myself). My photographs appeared on news papers and college broachers. I also received cash awards and certificates. I was on cloud nine and people around me were also appreciating my efforts. But, listen carefully, all these lasted for 15 days or probably a month. After a month, I almost forgot about my results and was stuck in a routine which was all about assignments, cultural activities and deadlines. My earlier success no more gave me happiness and I had to find new remedies to keep myself content. That’s when I realized success cannot always keep you happy. Likewise I never wallowed over my failures and I always believed failure is a part of my life.
To conclude, never believe that success gives you permanent happiness. Never fret over your failures and believe in the fact that the best is yet to come. Count your failures in the way you count your success. Learn to be happy with what you have. Learn new lessons from your failures and create a new path for success. Success and failure are not the ultimate beginning and end of your life. Success and failure are part of your life. Enjoy every moment of your life to the fullest . Motivate yourself to be happy by not letting failures affecting your life.
anubhavalahari 